The Conversation
- “But he hit me back first!” (13)
- Siegfried: If it was a Russian or any other white man who told blacks”to go back to Africa”, it would...
- Raguel: I saw that Spike Lee film “Do the Right Thing” years ago but still can’t understand it.
- bigWOWO: Stele: “Care to qualify that statement? Even if that were true, you have to look at this case on its...
- Two podcasts that address racism in the military, and Danny Chen the person (9)
- Raguel: The origins of racism in the American military as described by loudestfuckingazns is accurate. Very recently,...
- bigWOWO: Sorry, Larry, just noticed that the spam robot junked your comment. Approved!
- bigWOWO: Agreed. It just has more weight if you include your name. Not that the ideas are any less valid, but it just...
- Facebook IPO (5)
- King: Actually WOWO, I bump into plenty of Asians up at the Art Center College of Design http://www.artcenter.edu/a...
- bigWOWO: Agree with King. This might not be a bad thing for Asian Americans to hear about. We can jump off the STEM...
- Raguel: People are too accustomed to thinking about value only in terms of money. Even artists are guilty of it. Some...
- Stop SOPA and PIPA (7)
- Raguel: Found a great website, take a look at this: https://www.cdt.org/ Why should privacy be important, in an age...
- Raguel: Following the temporary shelving of SOPA and PIPA in the long line of net neutrality battles, the feds and...
- Chr..: “Asian American men have to get more involved, not less. It’s a civic responsibility, and you have to...
- Activism is as activism does (10)
- trolldetector: Brooks also goes onto say ‘You should attach yourself to a counter-tradition and school of...
- bigWOWO: By the way, speaking of activism, there was a great David Brooks column recently. He talks about how people...
- Raguel: I have no experience whatsoever with activism. I simply do not feel safe participating in it. There is always...
- How to Win a Streetfight (18)
- bigWOWO: No worries. I feel the same way. Nothing against her, but just doubtful.
- Raguel: Hi Byron! I’ve been occupied doing a lot of reading and thinking recently. I suppose its just another...
- bigWOWO: Hey Raguel, What about your comments on ASSK?
I agree with everything you said. About #1…I think...
- What Cultures Value (19)
- UFC 117 Sonnen vs. Silva Recap (1)
- bigWOWO: I think Michael Bisping solved the Chael Sonnen puzzle today, even though he lost a controversial decision....
- 6 on 1 Beatdown of Asian Man (36)
- King: “I mean I look around me and 99% of the time there are no women that look like or dress like Adriana Lima...
- SWR: Apparently the girl in the second video was not the girl who filmed the fight. It was probably unwise of her to...
- Raguel: I mean I look around me and 99% of the time there are no women that look like or dress like Adriana Lima in...
- Selfish Reasons To Have More Kids by Bryan Caplan (Review) (6)
- bigWOWO: Jeff, You called it! They were (if I recall correctly) 7 (twins) and 2. He’s still in the honeymoon...
- jeffat8asians: “Overpaying?” With the possible exception of college tuition (and even that is arguable),...
- Hitler: Kids suck lol.
- The Asian Rock Thread (16)
- ben: I’ve been getting into Asian rock music recently so thank you all very much for uploading all these videos.
- Simple Pickup on ABC News (132)
- Tommy: I think I’m coming here more for Moro’s comments than BigWoWO’s posts.
- Moroboshi: I didn’t say that. All I said was guys who believe in HBD are the same guys who probably also follow...
- Chr..: Moro, I don’t want to argue with you anymore! You seem to think that AMs are just as popular as other...
- “Lazy” Americans and the Decline of the American Middle Class (6)
- bigWOWO: But kobu, how can we have literature and art without money to support artists and writers? About...
- kobukson: I don’t know why everyone seems to think the notion of the decline of the middle class is such a bad...
- bigWOWO: There are a lot of veterans (supposedly) on that site. I can kind of understand it–military guys are...
- Aung Sung Suu Kyi Movie with Michelle Yeoh (45)
- bigWOWO: Eurasian, Lee Kuan Yew has always been upfront about Singapore’s hybrid system. To the best of my...
- Eurasian Sensation: @ BigWowo: New governments following independence or a major power struggle often have the sort...
- N: @bww And ironically, one of the rare democratic successes in the region that is Singapore behaves much closer to a...
- Paper Pushers by the Stunt People (4)
- Andre M. Smith: I divide my year annually between New York and Shanghai. One of my common visitations in the latter...
- Raguel: Smiley tests 8 )
8( - Raguel: ROFL! Thank you for thoroughly destroying Amy Chua, Andre. WELL SAID ^_^ You know the destruction is so...
- Amy Chua: Chinese Conceit, Chinese Ignorance, and the $24,000 question (245)
- Andre M. Smith: I believe some useful purpose will be served by offering here, what the lawyers might like to call,...
- N: What’s your opinion on Yundi Li and Yoyo Ma.
- Andre M. Smith: Amy Chua has never lived in China. Her understanding of its culture, that is, the culture as it’s...
- How to Finish Life With No Regrets (9)
- trolldetector: ^ i’d agree with that. but i wouldnt call them ‘idiots’, just misguided. crazy media...
- N: Agree with Jeff that not one regret is unlikely, the key is learn from it. Another way to look at it is that...
- American Jobs and India (14)
- lingyai: I am not sure what happen there with my name, that is not my email, so just ignore.
- lingyai@hotmail.com: @bigwowo Just because the average income in India is $2 a day doesn’t make a person...
- AM/AF couple: Nottyboy, Yes, just like every place of employment, upper management needs to do a better job in terms...
- Literary Fiction vs. Realistic Fiction and the Literary Hierarchy (6)
- Sana Rose: Well, now I am confused. I still can’t classify the novel I am writing.
I wouldn’t say...
- Sana Rose: Well, now I am confused. I still can’t classify the novel I am writing.
- National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) 2012 (32)
- Raguel: http://www.occupydream.org/ ^ I heard about this from Russell Simmons. I hope that things develop well to...
- Raguel: So is that the reasoning for why you don’t need the right to due process? Are you some kind of fucking...
- N: @King The constitution gave power to the states to benefit white america or the constitution gave benefitial power...
- When Your Fan Base is Full of Crazy People (24)
- N: @American girl Too be honest, I don’t really see why this video that ‘disgusting’ –...
- Mitt Romney and the Problem of Wealth (6)
- Raguel: Where do people get their information and knowledge from, though? Media, and education, word of mouth only...
- “But he hit me back first!” (13)
Tag Archives: PUA
Simple Pickup on ABC News
These guys are hilarious! I have to say, if I were a woman, I’d probably just stick around for the punchlines.
Check out this one too. “Worst wingman ever!”
Emotional Intelligence and EQ
Emotional Intelligence was a book by Daniel Goleman that I read over ten years ago. I don’t remember the details of the book, but I remember being struck by the idea that a person’s “emotional intelligence” can determine a person’s success in life. Goleman had case studies of really smart high IQ people who lose it because they can’t control or engage their emotions. Goleman directed people’s attention instead to EQ– Emotional Intelligence Quotient. Check out an excellent reader review of Goleman’s book here. About.com defines emotional intelligence by saying:
Posted in Citizenship, Knowledge, media, Strategy
Tagged emotional intelligence, human biodiversity, PUA
48 Comments
First Move Advantage
The thread about Universal vs. Desperation Morality is moving towards a discussion on whether men or women have advantages in their dating interactions. I think it’s a good topic to debate, but it’s separate from the main topic of how desperate people act.
Here’s my view on the new topic–in our society, men have the advantage, even though it doesn’t guarantee that men will have successful dates in all circumstances. The reason men have the advantage is that they get to ask first. They choose the time in which they ask and the speed at which they move, and when they get a date, they get to choose the time, place, and venue. Men in general don’t have to worry about physical safety when they go on dates, which results in considerable peace of mind that women don’t have the privilege of experiencing.
“Universal” Morality vs. Desperation Morality
A few weekends ago I went to a kids’ birthday party. I was sitting across from an Iranian American couple who had immigrated years ago and now had prestigious jobs, a beautiful 4-year-old daughter, and a great family life. You’re not supposed to talk politics or religion, but I felt like talking politics, so I told them about a time that I once accidentally wandered into a pro-Iran political group in the U.S. Iranians, the group had said, were just like Americans–the people had jobs, listened to music, and were just like you and me.
Re-Programming Your Mind
Last week, I got an interesting e-mail from a young man who was thinking of signing up for a bootcamp with the ABCs of Attraction. The young man had read some of my posts on PUA. He asked my opinion, and I referred him to some of the other posts that I had written. He wrote back, said that he had heard some of my podcasts and read more, and in the end, he decided not to go through with it.
Posted in Activism, Asian American
Tagged coaching, interracial relationships, motivation, PUA
73 Comments
Paper Tigers Climbing the Wrong Tree
Wesley Yang
Some of you may have noticed that my blogging has been more sporadic as of lately. Unfortunately, this is a trend that will probably continue in the near future as I’m trying to re-prioritize my offline life. So if you’re checking here everyday for the comments, please continue to do so. If not, subscribe with Google Reader. And yes, even though my blogging may be less frequent, please feel free to continue sending me articles. I really do enjoy getting that feedback.
A tree is a tree is a tree, even when it's not
Looks like CNN decided to do a story on how nice guys finish last. The author talks about (what should be) common knowledge about how women don’t like guys who are too nice. She interviews a “dating coach” (aka PUA), then talks to Neil Strauss, the former PUA-evangelist, then she talks to Robert Glover, who wrote the book “No More Mr. Nice Guy.”
You all know my thoughts on PUA. But what makes this article disappointing was that the author lumped PUA, a beta strategy for guys who have no empathy, with Robert Glover, who wrote a book expressing the simple idea that men need to stand up for themselves. If you read what the first PUA says, he’s basically saying that it’s okay to be a jerk:
PUA Douchebags Who Have No Boundaries (and Who "Sarge" FOBs)
Check out the video above.
“Ooh hoo, you so handsome!” Please. There ain’t nothing “fobulous” about this “approach.” Girl didn’t know she was being filmed, but man, watch out fo’ Rice Chasahs! (You can google the douchemeister if you want to know what I’m talking about. Trust me, it won’t make you feel any better.)
The Death of PUA
"Mystery"
Thanks to King, for sending this article. Openness truly is the PUA’s kryptonite. It makes it hard to neg or peacock when your target knows the score from watching TV or reading about the “movement.” Incidentally, I heard that PUA-ish behavior is really big in the cities these days. These bootcamps may have to relocate to a place where women don’t watch VH1.
Rampaging PUAs
Just saw this at the Anti-Social Ladder. It’s a great post, and she also links this great article by Dan Savage.
I’d been meaning to blog about this story for a while. It’s the story of George Sodini, a man who was getting very little sex, who responded by taking it out on the entire female gender by going to a fitness gym and murdering three women with a gun. Sodini was a disturbing psychopath; you can see his blog at the ABC News site. According to his blog, he hadn’t had sex since 1990. George Sodini was also a Pick-Up Artist in training, but he failed in his efforts and took his frustration out on random women.
