The Conversation
- Scapegoating our own (13)
- King: ^Yeah, but so did Obama 4 years ago. It’s inconsistent to think that Obama can have an arch of decision...
- Frank Chow: @King He definitely said he opposed “same-sex marriage”, that didn’t change....
- King: @ Frank But Manny didn’t even say what he’s been accused of.
- Facebook co-founder renounces U.S. citizenship prior to IPO (13)
- Raguel: This is a storm in a tea cup, a new five minutes of hate. This is because despite the outrage, people will...
- Frank Chow: “The country is not over-taxed; in fact, tax rates are near 60 year lows.” -source,...
- bigWOWO: Linda, Mark Cuban is rich (richer than me anyway), and he’s just as horrified as I am. I don’t...
- The Perversity of Human Biodiversity, a.k.a. “Scientific” Racism (428)
- LadyBlack: Hello, you who believe that some races are inferior and that some are superior. As a Black (in particular...
- bigWOWO: Thanks, Grover!
- Grover Porquel: Excellent roundup. I have taken on these “biodiversity” types myself over the years and...
- Higher education: the next subprime bubble (5)
- bigWOWO: Let’s think hypothetically. Let’s say they had quotas, such as a company of X number of...
- kobukson: In the past, a high school diploma was sufficient for getting a job. Things changed and a HS diploma...
- bigWOWO: I do agree with you, Ei, to a certain point. I have heard that some lawyers and engineers are having...
- Americans Eat the World’s Cheapest Food (36)
- bigWOWO: A week in, and: I liked the mock chicken, but the family didn’t like it. I don’t know if...
- King: ^ But isn’t Anthony Bourdain the same guy who recently called Paula Deen the “Worst Unhealthy Cook” for...
- kobukson: I like Anthony Bourdain’s take on vegetarians and vegans: “Vegetarians, and their Hezbollah-like...
- Why Do Asian People Have Bad Eyesight? (37)
- Suing the Bachelor for racial discrimination (34)
- George: The problem with the entertainment industry is that they have already stated that blacks are not on the show...
- George: “Oh and prediction, you know the first female non white bachelorette will be Asian, and it will be...
- Chen: i’ve been reading about BFOQ cases, and it seems as if the entertainment industry wins unless they do...
- Reasons to eliminate black studies (23)
- Asian Men, Black Men, and the Competition for White Women (569)
- Raguel: Actually, white people may laugh at him even more, and that may be why they like him so much.
- Raguel: How does this nihilistic dog so filled with ressentiment and love of the slave morality even dare to mention...
- ChineseMom: (continued) Criticism of contemporary Chinese literature and Marxism Q: After the publication of your...
- Immigration records of Asian immigrants to be made available to public (2)
- American woman becomes hero to abused women in China (39)
- Chen: thats it. This woman got beat up, and that is wrong. I’m sure some assholes are going to use that and run...
- Eurasian Sensation: Patriarchal practices are incredibly ingrained in some countries and are extremely hard to shift....
- Raguel: Wasn’t it reported in one of the major american magazines like life, time etc that travelling ulamas...
- San Diego student left alone in cell for five days (3)
- bigWOWO: Haha…I know, Zach! This is the absolute worse kind of invisibility that there is!
- Zach Katagiri: Man — talk about asian american males being invisible!!
- Linda: this will be the next episode of “I survived….” I am surprised they don’t have video...
- Adventures of the Karaoke King by Harold Taw (Review and Question) (4)
- bigWOWO: Alpha, Glad that you see the precious metals rather than the ranking! Although I guess I should consider...
- Raguel: Why not make contact with other blogs and Asian American websites to feature your reviews? This way,...
- Alpha Asian: B, I know what you mean. A lot of reviewers just give very bland reviews and they don’t really...
- Asian women fetch high prices for egg donation (5)
- Dman: I don’t get the article Asian women in demand for donating her eggs. I did not see anything mentioned...
- bigWOWO: I think that buying an egg is financially easier these days than adoption from China. I know people trying...
- Linda: Also regarding about adoption. I think a lot of Americanized Asians are open to adoption in the US. (unlike...
- Re-Programming Your Mind (74)
- Chr..: I’m not making this up! I saw this guy in front of a Trader Joe’s here in NYC not too long ago as...
- Asian Women and the Invisible Chain (187)
- Chr..: @ King Yes, and what can the general masses do to stop with what’s going on right now? Not much I would...
- King: @ Chr Because the money, more than anything else, is ‘the system’ that affects everything else.
- Chr..: “The whole thing looks like a very twisted version of musical chairs, doesn’t it?” Why does this...
- Creative Monopolists (3)
- Asian husband-wife team on Shark Tank (3)
- Artists Who Refuse to Work for Free (5)
- Courtney: I have been drawing for 22 years. I think it’s really inconsiderate to ask an artist to sit down for...
- More Asian Americans Marrying Within Their Race (106)
- Chr..: “Look at some of the fatcats on Wall Street–a guy who can drop $800 on a single night out isn’t...
- The Richer Sex by Liza Mundy (Review) (12)
- Chr..: “dystopian mating marketplace where, like income inequality, the rewards of female sexuality will go...
- Whiteness and American TV (9)
- Linda: @hadoken – I don’t know why korean dramas are like crack. I go thru phases. since it’s a...
- Scapegoating our own (13)
Tag Archives: parenting
5 Days to a Perfect Night’s Sleep For Your Child (Review)
If you are having trouble getting your child to sleep, this may be the right book for you: 5 Days to a Perfect Night’s Sleep for Your Child: The Secrets to Making Bedtime a Dream by Eduard Estivill.
I will admit–the last couple months have been very trying, with a baby who wouldn’t sleep. When my son was a baby, he fell asleep by himself quite easily–he’d cry for five or six minutes before falling asleep for the night. My daughter was not so cooperative. She’d cry for hours and hours until we’d go in and pick her up. Then she’d wake again at 2 in the morning and wouldn’t stop crying. I rushed to the library to get a book on teaching good sleep habits.
Republicans Block Child Nutrition Bill
The Republicans blocked a bill yesterday that would provide thousands of school meals for hungry children and would make those meals healthier. Not only would the bill feed more children, but it would also cut back on high calorie sweets and soft drinks in vending machines. So why would they block this?
They don’t want government to, you know, teach kids healthy eating habits.
Republicans say the nutrition bill is too costly and an example of government overreach.
Bullying, Gracie Jujitsu, and the Gracie Bullyproof DVD Program (Review)
I saw this article in the Christian Science Monitor about a woman whose child was bullied. She responded by taking her child to learn Gracie Jujitsu, where they have a program called Bullyproof. She took her son to the park after he learned GJJ, and what followed was some scary behavior on her son’s part, which this woman not only condones but praises! While I appreciate everything that the Gracies have done for Mixed Martial Arts (my favorite spectator sport by far) and martial arts in general, I’m not in agreement with how they teach children to verbally deal with bullies. See here:
Posted in MMA, parenting, Reviews, Strategy
Tagged bullying, Bullyproof, Gracies, MMA, parenting
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Why Parents Hate Parenting
Thank you to RiceDaddy blogmaster Jason, who podcasted, facebooked, and blogged the NPR conversation above (Go directly to NPR here if the above video doesn’t load). It’s a discussion with three dads about whether being a dad makes a guy happier or not. It’s an extension of the conversation initiated by this article in New York Magazine: All Joy and No Fun: Why Parents Hate Parenting. According to the article, parents think that they’re happier because they decided to have kids, but in reality they’re not. There’s no correlation between kids and happiness, unless people have more than one kid, in which case they tend to be unhappier than people without kids.
Dudescape to Dadscape
I caught this article linked by the fine people of BicoastalBitchin.
Alls I gotta say is that the writer hit the nail right flat on the head. This was my favorite sentence:
When baby makes three, the abrupt lifestyle change spells an end to these spontaneous expeditions.
Age three is the magic number, and it’s a dad thing, almost exclusively. Wives and women are cool checking with the singles, adjusting to the schedule, embarking on the same activities. But for guys, the party begins to end when the baby first comes, as you get used to changing diapers, feeding the baby, putting the baby to sleep, etc. The party completely ends at 3. You’re no longer the same person. Dude, meet yourself.
Conditional Parenting
(originally posted on Rice Daddies)
There was an interesting article in the NY Times today about “conditional parenting,” which the author describes as a style of child rearing in which parents “turn up the affection when they’re good, withhold affection when they’re not.” The author points to evidence that this parenting style may create more compliance in children, but that it also creates more psychological issues when children become adults. The author criticizes Supernanny Jo Frost and Dr. Phil as people who advocate for conditional parenting. This article is currently the most popular on the NY Times site.
Teaching a Man or Woman to Fish
In an earlier post, I posed the question to the ladies about whether or not they would ever entertain dating a guy who aspired to be a house husband. I asked if it would be acceptable for a guy to say, “I want to have kids, and I want to stay home and raise them.” I got three kinds of answers from the ladies: no, no, and no.
Heat Wave
Squirrel trying to cool off
It is ridiculously hot out there. It looks like we’re going to be hitting 107 degrees Fahrenheit (41.7 degrees Centigrade) today for our hottest temperature in Portland history, and it looks like we’re also going to be entering the longest stretch of >100 degree weather in history. It’s crazy. I don’t feel like working, getting out, or doing anything. It’s all veging out for me until this heat wave passes.
Raising a Karate Kid
(pic from here)
I blogged a few months ago about martial arts and kids. Remember this? And this?
A few days ago, I decided that I was going to give it a shot by teaching my son how to throw a punch. I taught the Gun-Gun to curl his hand in a fist. It didn’t look right, so we worked on it until it sort of resembled a fist. Then I instructed him to punch a pillow. I showed him how.
Single Black Women Adopting
Wendy Duren with her beautiful daughter Madison
I saw this beautiful, though somewhat sad, article on CNN today. Black women are choosing to adopt without waiting for a man to come around. These black women are successful, strong, and accomplished, but they have not found men who will marry them or treat them with respect. Many have decided to go ahead and move forward with motherhood. It’s beautiful because these women are empowered and not allowing society to hold them back, but it’s sad because these men are turning down something good.
Posted in parenting
Tagged adoption, African American, Asian American, children, parenting, women
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