The Conversation
- “But he hit me back first!” (13)
- Siegfried: If it was a Russian or any other white man who told blacks”to go back to Africa”, it would...
- Raguel: I saw that Spike Lee film “Do the Right Thing” years ago but still can’t understand it.
- bigWOWO: Stele: “Care to qualify that statement? Even if that were true, you have to look at this case on its...
- Two podcasts that address racism in the military, and Danny Chen the person (9)
- Raguel: The origins of racism in the American military as described by loudestfuckingazns is accurate. Very recently,...
- bigWOWO: Sorry, Larry, just noticed that the spam robot junked your comment. Approved!
- bigWOWO: Agreed. It just has more weight if you include your name. Not that the ideas are any less valid, but it just...
- Facebook IPO (5)
- King: Actually WOWO, I bump into plenty of Asians up at the Art Center College of Design http://www.artcenter.edu/a...
- bigWOWO: Agree with King. This might not be a bad thing for Asian Americans to hear about. We can jump off the STEM...
- Raguel: People are too accustomed to thinking about value only in terms of money. Even artists are guilty of it. Some...
- Stop SOPA and PIPA (7)
- Raguel: Found a great website, take a look at this: https://www.cdt.org/ Why should privacy be important, in an age...
- Raguel: Following the temporary shelving of SOPA and PIPA in the long line of net neutrality battles, the feds and...
- Chr..: “Asian American men have to get more involved, not less. It’s a civic responsibility, and you have to...
- Activism is as activism does (10)
- trolldetector: Brooks also goes onto say ‘You should attach yourself to a counter-tradition and school of...
- bigWOWO: By the way, speaking of activism, there was a great David Brooks column recently. He talks about how people...
- Raguel: I have no experience whatsoever with activism. I simply do not feel safe participating in it. There is always...
- How to Win a Streetfight (18)
- bigWOWO: No worries. I feel the same way. Nothing against her, but just doubtful.
- Raguel: Hi Byron! I’ve been occupied doing a lot of reading and thinking recently. I suppose its just another...
- bigWOWO: Hey Raguel, What about your comments on ASSK?
I agree with everything you said. About #1…I think...
- What Cultures Value (19)
- UFC 117 Sonnen vs. Silva Recap (1)
- bigWOWO: I think Michael Bisping solved the Chael Sonnen puzzle today, even though he lost a controversial decision....
- 6 on 1 Beatdown of Asian Man (36)
- King: “I mean I look around me and 99% of the time there are no women that look like or dress like Adriana Lima...
- SWR: Apparently the girl in the second video was not the girl who filmed the fight. It was probably unwise of her to...
- Raguel: I mean I look around me and 99% of the time there are no women that look like or dress like Adriana Lima in...
- Selfish Reasons To Have More Kids by Bryan Caplan (Review) (6)
- bigWOWO: Jeff, You called it! They were (if I recall correctly) 7 (twins) and 2. He’s still in the honeymoon...
- jeffat8asians: “Overpaying?” With the possible exception of college tuition (and even that is arguable),...
- Hitler: Kids suck lol.
- The Asian Rock Thread (16)
- ben: I’ve been getting into Asian rock music recently so thank you all very much for uploading all these videos.
- Simple Pickup on ABC News (132)
- Tommy: I think I’m coming here more for Moro’s comments than BigWoWO’s posts.
- Moroboshi: I didn’t say that. All I said was guys who believe in HBD are the same guys who probably also follow...
- Chr..: Moro, I don’t want to argue with you anymore! You seem to think that AMs are just as popular as other...
- “Lazy” Americans and the Decline of the American Middle Class (6)
- bigWOWO: But kobu, how can we have literature and art without money to support artists and writers? About...
- kobukson: I don’t know why everyone seems to think the notion of the decline of the middle class is such a bad...
- bigWOWO: There are a lot of veterans (supposedly) on that site. I can kind of understand it–military guys are...
- Aung Sung Suu Kyi Movie with Michelle Yeoh (45)
- bigWOWO: Eurasian, Lee Kuan Yew has always been upfront about Singapore’s hybrid system. To the best of my...
- Eurasian Sensation: @ BigWowo: New governments following independence or a major power struggle often have the sort...
- N: @bww And ironically, one of the rare democratic successes in the region that is Singapore behaves much closer to a...
- Paper Pushers by the Stunt People (4)
- Andre M. Smith: I divide my year annually between New York and Shanghai. One of my common visitations in the latter...
- Raguel: Smiley tests 8 )
8( - Raguel: ROFL! Thank you for thoroughly destroying Amy Chua, Andre. WELL SAID ^_^ You know the destruction is so...
- Amy Chua: Chinese Conceit, Chinese Ignorance, and the $24,000 question (245)
- Andre M. Smith: I believe some useful purpose will be served by offering here, what the lawyers might like to call,...
- N: What’s your opinion on Yundi Li and Yoyo Ma.
- Andre M. Smith: Amy Chua has never lived in China. Her understanding of its culture, that is, the culture as it’s...
- How to Finish Life With No Regrets (9)
- trolldetector: ^ i’d agree with that. but i wouldnt call them ‘idiots’, just misguided. crazy media...
- N: Agree with Jeff that not one regret is unlikely, the key is learn from it. Another way to look at it is that...
- American Jobs and India (14)
- lingyai: I am not sure what happen there with my name, that is not my email, so just ignore.
- lingyai@hotmail.com: @bigwowo Just because the average income in India is $2 a day doesn’t make a person...
- AM/AF couple: Nottyboy, Yes, just like every place of employment, upper management needs to do a better job in terms...
- Literary Fiction vs. Realistic Fiction and the Literary Hierarchy (6)
- Sana Rose: Well, now I am confused. I still can’t classify the novel I am writing.
I wouldn’t say...
- Sana Rose: Well, now I am confused. I still can’t classify the novel I am writing.
- National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) 2012 (32)
- Raguel: http://www.occupydream.org/ ^ I heard about this from Russell Simmons. I hope that things develop well to...
- Raguel: So is that the reasoning for why you don’t need the right to due process? Are you some kind of fucking...
- N: @King The constitution gave power to the states to benefit white america or the constitution gave benefitial power...
- When Your Fan Base is Full of Crazy People (24)
- N: @American girl Too be honest, I don’t really see why this video that ‘disgusting’ –...
- Mitt Romney and the Problem of Wealth (6)
- Raguel: Where do people get their information and knowledge from, though? Media, and education, word of mouth only...
- “But he hit me back first!” (13)
Tag Archives: Gender
Dissuading Chinese Women from Marrying For Money
Thanks, MLC, for sending this one: Girls to learn sour side of relying on ‘sugar daddies’. The article begins:
Girls in South China’s Guangdong province will get a crash course on how to resist the sweet talk of “sugar daddies” when schools start teaching them about self-respect.
The pilot project is aimed at telling girls at middle and elementary schools how to avoid falling into the clutches of older, richer men and stand on their own two feet.
“The education will focus on self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance and self-improvement,” said Lei Yulan, vice-governor of Guangdong and director of the Working Committee on Children and Women of Guangdong province.
A tree is a tree is a tree, even when it's not
Looks like CNN decided to do a story on how nice guys finish last. The author talks about (what should be) common knowledge about how women don’t like guys who are too nice. She interviews a “dating coach” (aka PUA), then talks to Neil Strauss, the former PUA-evangelist, then she talks to Robert Glover, who wrote the book “No More Mr. Nice Guy.”
You all know my thoughts on PUA. But what makes this article disappointing was that the author lumped PUA, a beta strategy for guys who have no empathy, with Robert Glover, who wrote a book expressing the simple idea that men need to stand up for themselves. If you read what the first PUA says, he’s basically saying that it’s okay to be a jerk:
The Male Brain
Louann Brizendine
Continuing Happy Week:
From the front page of CNN.com, Louann Brizendine, whom I’ve quoted before, writes:
Perhaps the biggest difference between the male and female brain is that men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain. Not only that, but beginning in their teens, they produce 200 to 250 percent more testosterone than they did during pre-adolescence.
So that’s why there’s no female PUA. This MD feminist probably would’ve been blasted off the 44s, but I’m glad she has written something about what seems obvious to many of us who work with lots of kids and adults. Here’s another interesting comment:
Mr. Hyphen tomorrow, the quest for masculinity
As some of you know, Mr. Hyphen is tomorrow. Check it out if you’re in Oakland. It’s a male pageant, something which I wrote about before. I’m not crazy about the idea of male pageants for Asian American men. It’s in a feminine context, and I’ve felt that men must make a hard impact in order to find their power. But I’m not going to oppose it either. They raise lots of money for causes, and you can’t fault them for that. If I were in town, I might go myself.
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Male Pageants
Mr. Hyphen (click pic for source)
Okay, okay, okay. You all know how obsessive I am when it comes to thought issues, so I wanted to post one last thing before showing you all the Miss Asian Oregon Pageant.
Several times over the past month, people have mentioned male pageants. Larry mentioned Mr. Hyphen, and someone else mentioned….oh, I guess Mr. Hyphen is the only male pageant. A few female Thymos members said that they’d go to a Mr. Asian Oregon, and someone else suggested an Asian male bodybuilding competition. I personally wouldn’t be interested in bodybuilding–I think those guys look like overstuffed pillows, and I think it’s unhealthy–yet I do like the idea of a male pageant.
Teaching a Man or Woman to Fish
In an earlier post, I posed the question to the ladies about whether or not they would ever entertain dating a guy who aspired to be a house husband. I asked if it would be acceptable for a guy to say, “I want to have kids, and I want to stay home and raise them.” I got three kinds of answers from the ladies: no, no, and no.
Guess What I've Been Up To
I spent yesterday and today at home with the baby. Mama WOWO went back to work, and so there was some lag time between her return and the arrival of family help. So I became the Stay-At-Home dad.
According to this segment of the conversation in the video above, the economy is creating lots of Stay-At-Home dads. Banking, housing, and automobiles are industries which have a skewed gender ratio in favor of men, and because these industries have been hit the hardest, a large majority of the recently laid-off happen to be men–82% according to the Times segment. Without these jobs, more and more men have left the job market and have now taken on roles as house-husbands. It’s a complete reversal of the traditional gender roles, which is what the two bloggers in the video above are discussing. Who would’ve ever thought that the economy could help fight sexism?
Gender Divide Podcast
Picture from KATU. We got about six inches of snow today. It’s very cold.
We did our big gender divide podcast last night. Participants were the Antisocial Ladder, the Minority Militant, the Alpha-Asian, Winnovative, Larry, Jason, urB4N, and me. You can download it here or listen to it below (though we tried to create two different podcasts, it came out as ONE big audio file, a whopping hour and 34 minutes, 30-something megabytes big):
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The Post-PUA Era of the Asian American Blogosphere
BKS Iyengar
(Image from Yoga Iyengar de Marseille)
But what has ego done to procreation, to the harmonious union of complementary opposites? It has twisted it into an act of egoic self-affirmation. Lust is self-validation through consumption. Control through the exercise of power.
–BKS Iyengar, Light on Life, p. 87 (ISBN-10 1-59486-524-8)
Chivalry – Dead, Alive or Lost Spirit?
[Jaehwan's Note: This is another piece from W about gender relations. It doesn't necessarily reflect my views, but it's a good piece to get some dialogue going on the relationships between Asian American men and Asian American women. I hope that featuring pieces like this will invite dialogue, on this site, on other sites, and over teleconferences, which I feel are extremely helpful in understanding other people's opinions.
One thing I will say is that the web, overall, is sexist, and so I think it's important to get more female perspectives out in the open for people to see and discuss. I'd like to send a big thank you out to W for her courage and proactiveness in sharing her opinions.]
