I learned about the Price of Privilege from my previous read, How Children Succeed. It is a book by a child psychologist from Marin County, CA, who writes about how affluence has hurt kids by creating a generation that is disconnected from their parents.
Paul Tough writes an interesting book on teaching kids to succeed. How Children Succeed is based on the idea that character often determines how children cope with the world, and that there are ways adults can best teach children the character traits that will enable them to do well in the world. Tough focuses on the poorest and neediest children in his interviews, but he also talks about how wealthy kids face the same issues on a lesser scale. His thesis is that character traits are often more important than IQ, and that having the “character” to strive and work will often make a person successful
There was an article in Forbes by a white woman named Susan Adams whose son goes to Stuy, where most of the kids are Asian: Tiger Moms Don’t Raise Superior Kids, Says New Study. She wrote the article and read Amy Chua’s Tiger Mom book because she questioned whether her kid would lose out to the Asian students. Now, according to the article, there is evidence that ought to allay her fear. Su Yeong Kim, a professor at the University of Texas, had been working on the same topic before Amy Chua’s book came out, and she has just published her results. According to her, Tiger parenting doesn’t work. The Forbes article says:
My reading and writing burnout continues (more to come on this later…maybe). However, the NY Times had an excellent piece on the importance of the family narrative. Read it here. According to the article, knowing one’s family narrative helps to strengthen the family and help the family make it through difficult times. The article says:
First, the ascending family narrative: “Son, when we came to this country, we had nothing. Our family worked. We opened a store. Your grandfather went to high school. Your father went to college. And now you. …”
I posted a long time ago about young kids and MMA, and I was surprised to see the video above, where 13-year-old Reshat Mati is already a world champion kickboxer, North American grappling champion, and boxer. He trains five days a week, with his father driving him from gym to gym. More info on him here. He already has a nickname: The Albanian Bear. Grantland just wrote an article about him too.
This one is interesting: Should I tell my infertile Asian wife that I want all-white babies? A dude wrote in to Slate to ask advice about his infertile wife:
I got this article from our friend Eric Jacobus from the Stunt People, and I think you all will enjoy it as much as I did: Hold Fast: How Forgetfulness Torpedos Your Journey to Becoming the Man You Want to Be, and Remembrance Is the Antidote. The story begins with a story of four friends who try to explore a cave while holding onto a rope. From there, it goes into Plato’s Phaedrus and how life is about remembering who we want to be, and how we need to constantly repeat life’s lessons to ourselves so that we really learn. It’s a great view on how to truly become what you want to become. The crux of the story is that we need to hold onto our values.
I’ve been thinking about this issue every single day since my son started playing chess: The Role of Competitiveness in Raising Healthy Children. My son knows how all the pieces move. He generally understands forks, pins, and the relative value of the pieces. But he doesn’t understand everything fluently yet. He’s part of a chess club where he plays other kids, and like other kids, he’s not always certain whether there’s a checkmate or a check. Some of the parents enroll their kids in private lessons, and we haven’t come to that yet. But the idea is always in my mind–is it good for my son to be involved in competition at his age? If not, when?
I’ve been busy with school-related stuff, and I saw this: Obama says fatherhood trumps schmoozing. I’m not sure how I feel about it. On one hand, I’ve seen it before on a personal level–activist organizations that go down once its core members start having kids and can no longer fundraise, throw events, etc. I can understand Obama’s desire to be with his kids, and I think Malia and Sasha will definitely be better off.
The full title of this book is Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder. The author Richard Louv was the recipient of the 2008 Audubon Medal. In this book, he describes what he calls “nature-deficit disorder,” which is the idea that children have become separated from nature. He cites many studies that show children who are more connected to nature tend to be calmer, creative, and more confident. Louv writes from personal experience, and he talks about how we can bring our kids back to nature.