Mojo sent the following article: Familiar ad trope: Pairing white men and Asian American women. Some of the ads are the ones that we’ve discussed here before, like this one for example. If you look at the comments, there are tons and tons and tons of white guys who are defending the pairing in the media. You all know my view on this–I’m supportive of the Celebrity Club, but I also think we need some variety.
(By the way, check out the look on the Asian acTOR’s face in the Ruffles commercial. I can’t help but think that there’s some kind of “Oh, they put another Asian woman in a commercial opposite me–and she ain’t with me!”)
In any case, there was recently a whole lot of nonsense around an xojane article, where one Asian woman said she didn’t date Asian men, and then another came out and then said she did, and then a famous Asian American restauranteur came out and got personal against both women, calling both women “idiots.” It’s a common idea that more discussion leads to greater understanding, but I think that depends on how the discussion is conducted. The internet model–where one Asian woman professes undying love to the White man, and then another says she likes Asian men, and then some restaurant owner who personally attacks both of them–doesn’t always work. A lot of times it’s just people standing on their soapbox and getting loud. No one is listening, and no one is communicating.
That’s why I say that it makes sense sometimes to sit there and read/write/think. All this noise is sometimes not very helpful. We all know what the problem is. (Well, most of us. Some of the delusional are just delusional.) For people new to the issue, these women have a right to speak, and yes, the end result will probably be a whole lot of people wasting their time gawking over who can get down, dirtier, and tackier. For those who have been discussing this issue for years (oh, WOWO just passed its four year anniversary!), we’re best off coming from a place of quiet, a place where we can learn to see that which we can’t (a good antidote to delusion.). Sometimes the solutions are within us, rather than somewhere else.
Edit: This one is all kinds of ironic:
“Good job, baby.” It reminds me of what happens when a White guy says “Ni Hao” to Chinese people. All of a sudden there are people jumping around, acting like he’s some kind of genius.