Yes. Both go into denial, get self defensive (“you misunderstood what I said/meant”, but then refuse to clarify what they said), & then get angry (f*ck off & runs off). Both are married to WM, one who is rich & balding ; the other who doesn’t say much. I wonder if they settled for these guys just because they’re WM who will have them. It just goes to show you how some AW (& AM) have internalized a white bias (see: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WG7U1QsUd1g) & never grow out of it because of the issues they have about themselves.

I Googled this term and came up with Karen Pyke’s work, _Internalized Gendered Racism in Asian American Women’s Accounts of Asian and White Masculinities_.

http://www.allacademic.com/meta/p_mla_apa_research_citation/1/0/9/4/3/p109437_index.html

Using a number of interviews with Korean and Vietnamese American women, it examines how these interviewees promote White racist/gendered views of Asian (American) males.

What’s interesting is that Prof. Karen Pyke herself is White, I believe.

Imagine if an Asian guy wrote this book. There would be spittle-flecked outrage and hell to pay. The work would be politically attacked as an example of an Asian guy unfairly demonizing Asian women as whitewashed sell-outs!

And even more interesting are Google’s Rice Chaser/Asianphile ads found on the webpage of Pyke’s work: “Hookup With Sexy Asians”; “1000′s Of Thai Women”; “Find An Asian Wife,” “Asian women look for men” etc.

In other words, this White Orientalist fetish culture is totally pervasive and promoted by “respectable” American corporations like Google.

In America, Orientalist racism/sexism is normalized like the air you breathe.

This kind of White racist culture is like the plague, swine flu, and a very nasty STD all combined together.

You forget that brothers and fathers are always the “exceptions.”
Also, they are not romantic interests.

It’s really unfortunate to hear Phil’s account. You would think that having an Asian brother for all their lives would convince them that Asian men are “normal” men as opposed to only consuming media representations. Guess not. You would also think they’d realize that they’re insulting their own brother with their words and, indirectly, with their actions.

Have you ever confronted them about it, Phil?

@American Girl,

As a follow up, let me ask you these.
1. Do you honestly think that “preferring to date blondes over brunettes” is the same thing as “preferring to date one race over your own race”?
2. Given worldwide media’s constant perpetual promotion of white beauty, do you think it is really okay for a white man or woman to have a “preference” for Asians? In other words do you not see that there is something inherently wrong and perverted about this?
3. Given worldwide media’s constant perpetual promotion of white beauty, do you think it is really okay for an Asian woman or man to have a “preference” for Whites”? In other words do you not see that there is something inherently wrong and perverted about this?
4. Do you think there is a difference between these 2 preferences in #2 and #3?
5. Beyond the physical and cultural attraction and preference aspect of this, who do you think carries the bigger burden when it comes to being socially aware and promoting/combating on behalf of Asian American issues (including the IR disparity)? Whites or Asians? Or is it just free love and as long as Asians (both men and women) don’t date “loser” whites, then it’s totally okay?

BTW, if an Asian guy or gal tells you that they prefer to date blondes over brunettes, they like the white meat. For whites, it’s a different thing all together.

“I don’t date anymore. When I did, I can’t say I had a preference, but I only dated Asian, Caucasian or mixed race men because they were the only type of men in the universe of men who asked me out on a date.”

Okay, fair enough answer. What if I asked who you were more attracted to regardless of who asked you out? Attraction happens long before some boy came along and asked you out on a date if you were a girl. Or some girl showed interest in you so you asked her out if you were a guy (because that’s one thing that has stayed the same since the dawn of time despite the many social and technological advances we have achieved up to this point in the modern world).

No one calls me AG in real life. It’s just a handle.

I don’t date anymore. When I did, I can’t say I had a preference, but I only dated Asian, Caucasian or mixed race men because they were the only type of men in the universe of men who asked me out on a date.

The same.

American Girl, do you “prefer” dating white men? And recalling from another thread, do your partner or husband really literally call you “AG” or American Girl? Sorry, this curiosity thing Rob started is really contagious.

King, are you the same King for a Day from 44s?

Seigfried, do you have a pic or some bio information on some Asian fetish website you can provide so I can pass along to some beautiful Asian ladies who want to meet a normal, decent, smart white guy?