You definitely should join Rice Daddies once your baby comes! You can teach the daddies how to raise your baby with confidence.

Assuming that we don’t get bogged down with other news stories, I think I’m going to declare an “Alpha” week, where I just post stuff on confidence, coaching, and growing. Let me see what I can find. If so, I can announce later.

Yeah, confidence is the key to success in a lot of things. Question is: how do you build it?

1) Get good parenting (the ultimate life coaches)
2) Get a lot of life experiences
3) Get a good attitude that can interpret those life experiences

Asian parents are notorious for crapping on their kids egos and we all developed low self esteem as a result. So the only way to overcome that is to develop a lot of life experiences and teach yourself to be more confident and positive. Thinking positive requires effort at first, but it is simply changing your mental frame of reference.

That’s what PUA’s do to a certain extent, which is to artificially put the trainee through experiences in a short period of time and to rewire his way of thinking about those experiences. It’s a false sense of confidence, however, because the experiences are rather superficial.

By the way, we should podcast again after you have your child. I realize how much the focus changes with children (maybe this is related to the blog post), and I’d like to see how it affects your own psychology and goals.

in a sense it may already happening. I read the book “The Next 100 Years” by George Friedman, and it asserts that the population is on the decline worldwide, and that countries will competing for immigrants to sustain their economies.

If immigration from Asia to the US were to stop, then would the Asian American disappear? Big WoWo’s right. The Asian American would disappear. We only need to look at the Japanese American community for a real life example. That community has amalgamated with the white community and Chinese American community, and there is no significant influx of Japanese immigrants to sustain it.

Now are there droves of loser Asian dudes who can’t hook up and get laid? I doubt it. Whether you call it the sex drive or the desire to true love, that drive is damn strong. Everybody finds somebody.

If anything, Asian men will contribute just as much to the assimilation of the Asian American community, because they will outmarry too.

Thanks! I agree with what you say, especially the part about those who concentrate on financial success.

Lingyai,

I probably should’ve modified my statement–I was thinking about young fundies. Married fundies get it on.

URB4N:

I really need to see what you’re like when I head to the East Coast…

“Ends justifies the means?” You mean being like the PUAs in their early 30′s bragging about how they get women to buy them drinks? That’s not my kind of ending. I don’t think it’s yours either. Is it?

Acknowledge the problem? Anna says that financially successful people need to support the arts and that the IR issue could be addressed through their actions. Maybe we should acknowledge that some of these guys on Wall Street aren’t giving the help they should be giving, or maybe they aren’t looking for beneficiaries who are doing the right thing. This isn’t saying that they should be making movies; it’s saying that they aren’t looking for the right people or groups to receive their contributions.

I also acknowledge that you want to put the blame on Asian women, and I think that that may be justified for some women, such as Ms. Kingston or Ms. Tan. But is it really about blame? Wouldn’t we all be happy if the problem just went away?

Think sales, man. Concentrate and build up the positive. There are 101 reasons not to buy that stock, but the one reason to buy it may outweigh the others.

“…For Asian Americans, as many have noted before, immigration is currently the only way we survive as a minority group. Cut off immigration, and within a few generations, we’d be a society of Lisa Sees writing orientalist fantasies about our grandfathers…”

I think for AZNS cultural assimilation is inevitable, but racial/ethnic assimilation is not.

If AZNS concentrate on financial and career success then use the capital earned to support expressions of AZN arts and culture, then this problem can be addressed…

Supporting culture=supporting ideology, AZN role models, heroes, hopes and dreams, and ultimately the empowerment of AZN communities in the “West”…

It’s impossible to fix a problem unless you acknowledge it first which one has yet to do.

Whoops.

Also, I disagree with the PUA comment. I fully support the mentality of “the ends justify the means.”

Generally these people have more kids than the average urban dweller of whatever race. Maybe less sexual partners but more kids.