Jon and the new Kate
Thanks to American Girl who sent word about Jon Gosselin and his new Kate. That’s right, our favorite Rice Daddy is not with Hailey Glassman but with a brand new girlfriend whose name is Kate. If you thought it was only yesterday he was dating Glassman, you’re not that far off–it happened so fast that not even Glassman knew. His new Kate chica is a tabloid reporter who used to work for Star Magazine. When she interviewed him, she fell for him and decided to quit her job.
So here’s the story for those who haven’t been following: Jon got divorced from his wife because he was caught with another woman. Soon after his divorce, he dated another woman (Glassman…who is not the woman who caused the divorce). And now he’s dating yet another woman. Another season of Jon and Kate is not going to fly without the original family intact, but what about having a show just about Jon? It seems he has enough drama to make a pretty decent show.
Man, if Asian guys had the pull that Jon has, I don’t think we’d ever be discussing IR…
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Not sure if Jon Gosselin is exactly the kind of dudeness we should be aspiring towards…
I know a lot of people are poo-pooing on Jon right now, but I say let him live his life. For the longest while, he let things happen to him. Kate was running the show and the relationship and the family and hence ruining, I mean, running his life.
After they had the birth of their twins, Katie wanted more kids. Oprah asked Jon if he also wanted to have more kids and he really didn’t want to. But he let Kate run their relationship and gave the reins to her, and they ended up with 6 more kids! He was a father of eight by 27. Jon and Kate were married when he was 22.
During the whole series, Jon did not speak up against Kate with the exception of a few occasions. Now Jon wants to live his life the way he wants to, to make up for lost time and to date who he wants to date. He’s been controlled by Kate for so long that he doesn’t give a crap about what people think anymore.
You can see that in a certain sense, now that he’s no longer married, he’s regressed. He’s no longer the sweater wearing dad driving a mini-van. Jon looks like he’s gone through a PUA bootcamp.
I think most people who go through a divorce regress, because they’re now back at stage one: being single. Divorce is just a chance to start over again, and that’s what Jon’s doing.
I’ve seen my own friends get divorced, and when they start dating again, they do so with abandon. Especially guys. Guys in their 40s, when they get divorced, act like they are 18, hormones and all. Anyone else notice this?
And Jon being as rich and famous as Jon is, I guess 4 women in 3 weeks is just a famous guy’s version of this reversion.
yeah I’ve noticed that too. Although I did run into a former classmate of mine about a year ago. She was telling me about she got divorced, 3 YEARS AGO. This girl was still in recovery, and was dating/screwing 2 different guys. She told me how she wasn’t really into one of the guys she was dating and that the sex was blah, and I asked her, “Why the hell are you going out with someone you’re not into?”
Her response: “Prior to these 2 guys, I only had sex with my husband. I hadn’t slept with anyone else.”
This girl was sleeping around just to make for lost time.
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“Jon looks like he’s gone through a PUA bootcamp.”
I thought the same thing.
Maybe we need to look at our own understanding of dating. Sometimes I feel people get to involved with one person too soon. Maybe it is a cultural thing.
In my last round of dating, I think I finally got it right. I dated people who I found interesting, but if within those first two dates, something doesn’t work, I was not coming back for more. If I really like someone, but that person was not where I wanted to be (not able to commit, have a family, responsible with finances, etc.) then I would break it off.
Maybe early on instead of “going steady” with the first person who expresses mutual interest, we should date multiple people. If someone you are not interested in is not interested in you, then move on.
The first guy I ever dated I dated him for three years. He was a chump, but I was going to stick it out and one day he would get the job, or finish the screen play, or buy me that ring. I turned down so many guys I probably should have dated because I was in a “committed relationship” with a five year college student who still had not declared a major.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying go out and have sex with many partners, all I am saying is maybe daters should not rush into relationships. We should also teach our kids that breaking up with a boy or girlfriend in school isn’t such a big deal if you don’t do what Bristol Palin did.
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“If someone you are not interested in is not interested in you, then move on.”
That advice is so on the money it’s ridiculous! I wish more people realized that. I had a similar experience to yours with my approach to relationships. Atypical of a lot of guys (I think!?) I always took everything very seriously. As such, breakups hit me pretty hard, and I tended to hang on. It took a long time to learn what you just said. In a nutshell, “If they’re not interested in you, then why would you want them to be? they may be the best thing in the world, but they have a fatal flaw – they’re not into you, It’s not your fault, so move on.”
OK, I’m derailing. I just had to applaud that statement!
although I’m kinda sick of hearing about Jon and Kate, what it boils down to is this: do NOT get married when you are young and right out of school. When you marry at 22 or 23, you are still in the process of discovering who you are, still maturing. What you liked or what appealed to you when you were 21 or 22 might not be the same as when you’re 29, 30. People grow and their goals change. And I can certainly see where people who spent their entire 20′s being married with kids have missed out on a lot of what their single contemporaries experienced; therefore, they revert to making up for lost time when they become single again.
I’m still astounded at how so many people tie the knot without fully realizing what they’re getting into and knowing what type of person they’re gonna be spending the rest of their life with. On the other hand, these people will spend months, even years ahead of time planning their wedding ceremonies, their bachelor(ette) parties, honeymoons, etc. If only they spend as much time thinking about their future together as they do planning their Las Vegas trips. How can you settle down with someone and have kids and not expect your lifestyle to change? And it’s just irresponsible to blame the things you miss out on solely on your spouse or, more tragically, your kids who always end up paying the highest price for divorce.
I know I’m also derailing this topic, but just gotta throw it out there because every time I see celebrities separate, they act like they just got out of Guantanamo Bay. I mean, seriously? Was marriage really that awful for you? What the fuck were you thinking?
Jon’s telling everyone that he’s single:
http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/TV/07/27/jon.gosselin.single/index.html
This should enable him to date even MORE women. Clever clever Jon.
I agree with everyone here. Marriage is a big commitment. People should realize that before they jump in.
One advice that I read a long time ago, even before I was married, was that neither party should ever mention the word “divorce.” If you think of divorce as an option, you’re more likely to take the easier way out. If you take it off the table, you’re more likely to stick it out and make it work.
“If you take it off the table, you’re more likely to stick it out and make it work.”
Amen to that! My wife and I went through a really rough time about 7 years ago, but thankfully we stuck through / fought through it and both grew a ton from the experience. It was really horrible to go through disliking your spouse, but we’re stronger for it now. My advice to anyone going through hell in the marriage arena would be fight for what you value, and if you can’t find value in it now, then fight for what you once found value in!