Comments on: Guess What I've Been Up To http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/03/guess-what-ive-been-up-to/ Asian American Intellectualism, Activism, and Literature Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:10:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Daddies Who Become HouseDaddies | big WOWO http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/03/guess-what-ive-been-up-to/#comment-862 Daddies Who Become HouseDaddies | big WOWO Fri, 29 May 2009 18:23:33 +0000 http://www.bigwowo.com/?p=1068#comment-862 [...] blogged about my own House Daddy work before, and I think it’s important for Stay At Home Dads to communicate with each other [...] [...] blogged about my own House Daddy work before, and I think it’s important for Stay At Home Dads to communicate with each other [...]

]]> By: jaehwan http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/03/guess-what-ive-been-up-to/#comment-861 jaehwan Sun, 08 Mar 2009 02:10:10 +0000 http://www.bigwowo.com/?p=1068#comment-861 Check out this article in the NY Times: http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/11/business/11envy.html?pagewanted=1&ei=5070&en=86f35713ad1ca64b&ex=1187755200&emc=eta1 <i>“The thing I most want in life is a wife. I’m not kidding,” said Joyce Lustbader, a research scientist at Columbia University, who has been married for 29 years. “I work all day, sometimes seven days a week, and still have to go home and make dinner and have all those things to do around the house.”</i> Check out this article in the NY Times:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/11/business/11envy.html?pagewanted=1&ei=5070&en=86f35713ad1ca64b&ex=1187755200&emc=eta1

“The thing I most want in life is a wife. I’m not kidding,” said Joyce Lustbader, a research scientist at Columbia University, who has been married for 29 years. “I work all day, sometimes seven days a week, and still have to go home and make dinner and have all those things to do around the house.”

]]> By: mama nabi http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/03/guess-what-ive-been-up-to/#comment-860 mama nabi Sat, 07 Mar 2009 16:44:02 +0000 http://www.bigwowo.com/?p=1068#comment-860 Quite honestly, I don't think men are genetically unequipped to be good house husbands. I think they are psychologically wired to think of household chores as something beneath them, and even if there are good intentions, do not give the chores their due value, i.e. who cares if I missed a spot of egg yolk crust on the plate, what's the big deal, if you care so much, you do the dishes. Also, much of the sexist attitude stems from how their parents divide domestic chores. So, yes, there are men who do make fine (if not fabulous) house husbands... This may not be much coming from me who is a "domestic zero"... but I have to say that my boyfriend is one of those men who are fabulous house husbands. They do exist. Quite honestly, I don’t think men are genetically unequipped to be good house husbands. I think they are psychologically wired to think of household chores as something beneath them, and even if there are good intentions, do not give the chores their due value, i.e. who cares if I missed a spot of egg yolk crust on the plate, what’s the big deal, if you care so much, you do the dishes. Also, much of the sexist attitude stems from how their parents divide domestic chores.

So, yes, there are men who do make fine (if not fabulous) house husbands… This may not be much coming from me who is a “domestic zero”… but I have to say that my boyfriend is one of those men who are fabulous house husbands. They do exist.

]]> By: jaehwan http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/03/guess-what-ive-been-up-to/#comment-859 jaehwan Fri, 06 Mar 2009 17:17:46 +0000 http://www.bigwowo.com/?p=1068#comment-859 "But *generally* I just don’t see men doing this particular job very well." If this were the 44s, one of the angry women would be on you like rice on rice. Actually, one in particular would probably accuse all men of sexism, and THEN be on you like rice on rice. She would say something like, "It's because they're sexist! Sexist!!! All men are pigs except for the ones who never leave socks on the floor! Look at Kaneshiro. Have you ever seen him leave socks on the floor in any of his <i>movies</i>?" On a another note, it's ironic that you bring this up because almost as soon as I posted, I got in trouble for my poor House Husband skills. It looked clean to me! “But *generally* I just don’t see men doing this particular job very well.”

If this were the 44s, one of the angry women would be on you like rice on rice. Actually, one in particular would probably accuse all men of sexism, and THEN be on you like rice on rice. She would say something like, “It’s because they’re sexist! Sexist!!! All men are pigs except for the ones who never leave socks on the floor! Look at Kaneshiro. Have you ever seen him leave socks on the floor in any of his movies?”

On a another note, it’s ironic that you bring this up because almost as soon as I posted, I got in trouble for my poor House Husband skills. It looked clean to me!

]]> By: Akrypti http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/03/guess-what-ive-been-up-to/#comment-858 Akrypti Fri, 06 Mar 2009 15:57:12 +0000 http://www.bigwowo.com/?p=1068#comment-858 P.S. House Husband and Stay At Home Dad are two different and distinct jobs. I have no question that men make phenomenal stay at home dads, but house husband? That one I question. P.S. House Husband and Stay At Home Dad are two different and distinct jobs. I have no question that men make phenomenal stay at home dads, but house husband? That one I question.

]]> By: Akrypti http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/03/guess-what-ive-been-up-to/#comment-857 Akrypti Fri, 06 Mar 2009 15:54:22 +0000 http://www.bigwowo.com/?p=1068#comment-857 I won't expressly judge how well of a house-husband you have been, because I don't know you well enough. But *generally* I just don't see men doing this particular job very well. As you know about my recent accident, the husband has had to assume all domestic duties... and our house is in chaos. Funny I should read this entry this morning. We have company coming over this evening, but Hubby hasn't done dishes in a week. Nor does he think it necessary to, say, ever wipe the countertops. Before bed last night, I reminded him that we had company and we should probably clean up. Thank goodness I got up at 6 this morning; otherwise I wouldn't have had the time to clean! I even had to empty the dishwasher first. He left clean dishes in the dishwasher, for how long, I haven't a clue. And on dishes... his idea of washing dishes is a swab of detergent and then run it for a few seconds under water. After he "does the dishes," I have to go back and do it again, because everything is still dirty. Usually I tidy up his home office for him, you know, pick his dirty socks off the floor, throw out old newspapers and magazines, arrange his desk. I didn't step into that room at all for one week and now the place looks like a landfill. I remember Tuesday night of last week in the ER room, Hubby held my hand and said sweetly, "Now I can be a house husband and do everything while you heal." Uh.... No, no, of course he has been wonderful. He tries. It's just that, frankly speaking, he sucks at the particular job of house-husbandry. I won’t expressly judge how well of a house-husband you have been, because I don’t know you well enough. But *generally* I just don’t see men doing this particular job very well.

As you know about my recent accident, the husband has had to assume all domestic duties… and our house is in chaos. Funny I should read this entry this morning. We have company coming over this evening, but Hubby hasn’t done dishes in a week. Nor does he think it necessary to, say, ever wipe the countertops. Before bed last night, I reminded him that we had company and we should probably clean up.

Thank goodness I got up at 6 this morning; otherwise I wouldn’t have had the time to clean! I even had to empty the dishwasher first. He left clean dishes in the dishwasher, for how long, I haven’t a clue. And on dishes… his idea of washing dishes is a swab of detergent and then run it for a few seconds under water. After he “does the dishes,” I have to go back and do it again, because everything is still dirty.

Usually I tidy up his home office for him, you know, pick his dirty socks off the floor, throw out old newspapers and magazines, arrange his desk. I didn’t step into that room at all for one week and now the place looks like a landfill.

I remember Tuesday night of last week in the ER room, Hubby held my hand and said sweetly, “Now I can be a house husband and do everything while you heal.”

Uh….

No, no, of course he has been wonderful. He tries. It’s just that, frankly speaking, he sucks at the particular job of house-husbandry.

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