Thanks to the Alpha-Asian for linking the video above and below.
I agree with Alpha’s sentiments about PUA “white worship,” or the need for Asian men to prove themselves by dating women of the majority race. Though I support both interracial and intra-racial relationships, it probably would have been nice for there to be less of a focus on dating white and more of a focus on just dating. That being said, I also agree with Alpha’s piece when it comes to “limiting beliefs.” I think part of the issue is that shy men limit themselves by not stepping outside of their comfort zone.
By the way, I also think it’s great that youtube and blogs have allowed us to start talking about issues like this.
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I agree with everything you said. About #1…I think...
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yeah, we live in an exciting time where the market and society can be driven by user-generated content and products. Let’s hope the Internet remains free for all.
This is not a bad video….
On the interracial dating thing, most people are probably aware of how this topic often results in acrimonious “discussions” between Asian men and women.
I wonder if this tension reflects a deeper gender divide between men and women that hasn’t really been fully addressed in the AA community. I’ve heard people allude to this problem but kinda shy away from it, for whatever reason.
To cite one minor example, on the F44s site, most topics involving gender, sexuality, or relationships often have a fair chance of erupting into vitriol, with the debate often breaking down by gender.
Larry,
I LOVED the video! I couldn’t get that tune out of my head the whole day.
I agree that a lot of these topics involving gender erupt into vitriol when they deal with gender, sexuality, and relationships, but I wonder if that would be the case if more people would follow William’s example and talk about issues rather than trying to be internet warriors. In other words, would the conversation be different if people tried to take the activist approach? I think there would be some heated discussions, but I don’t think these discussions would be nearly as personal if they took place off the net.
James,
I’m wondering what a Great Depression looks like in the Internet age. I just blogged it here.
Great videos! I think they prove a wonderful point. The ability for ANYONE to date someone else has FAR less to do with stereotypes, and far more to do with how they present themselves. In the first video, the attributes that the women said they’d like to see were “confidence, athleticism and social ability” Honestly, these traits are needed by ALL men in order to be able to date any sort of woman. Sure there are narrowminded individuals out there who may still be unattracted based on race, but by and large, I believe that these characteristics are not just things that Asian men need, but all men. I’d be curious to see the results of taking a white guy, dressing him like the Asian in the first video, cutting his hair similarly and having him approach the women in the same manner (body language and verbiage) would show? Based on what I know of social dynamics, I’d put money on him being as unsuccessful as the Asian. Very nice counterpoint video!
It’s pretty clear that it’s about attitude and the ability to communicate effectively (that’s the key here) with a woman that results in one’s ability to date someone.
C’mon, the girl in the first video was beautiful! I can’t think of a single guy out there who wouldn’t give up his digits to her. No offense to women, but I think you have it far easier when it comes to picking up a guy (regardless of your race). As sexes, we’re wired differently for what we need to learn from a potential partner before we feel comfortable dating them, so I think the comparison is always going to be unfair. It’s more of a gender thing I think.